How to Build a Good Marriage Lesson 6: "Genuine Forgiveness" Michael Lewis July 29, 2007
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How to Build a Good Marriage
Lesson Six: “Genuine Forgiveness”
by Michael Lewis
July 29, 2007
Dalton Gardens Church of Christ

“Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Col 3:12-13

Four Principles about Forgiveness in Marriage:

1. Forgiveness is   essential   for a healthy marriage.

2. Our forgiveness of each other is rooted in our   gratitude   for God’s forgiveness of   us  .

A. Christ’s forgiveness is   selfless  .

B. His forgiveness is   unlimited  .

C. His forgiveness is   repeated  .

D. His forgiveness is   prepaid  .

E. His forgiveness is   unfair  .

3. Forgiveness does have some   qualifiers  .

A. Forgiveness does not mean an   endorsement   of behavior.

B. Forgiveness does not exempt one from God’s   judgment  .

C. Forgiveness does not mean immediate   restoration     in     trust  .

4. Forgiveness is a   deliberate   choice and not a   natural   act.

Finding the Courage to Forgive:

1. Don’t let your first reaction be your   last   one.

2.   Pray   for wisdom.

3.   Humble   yourself and seek wise Christian   counsel  .

4. Express   kindness  .

5. Remember the sacredness of your   wedding     vows  .